Not good enough.
I’m not good enough.
That’s what most of us feel, at one time or another.
And of course, there is proof.
We can always compare ourselves to those who are more successful, who sell more books or who earn more money. Those who win awards. Those who get the interviews. And there is always someone who does better, if we look around long enough.
And then we feel lacking.
It’s a horrible feeling, one that leaves us with no will to go on, one that puts that awful critical voice in our heads, one that makes us feel like digging a hole, jumping in and pulling a rock over us.
This is a mindgame. Nothing more, nothing less.
You see, when we enter that state of comparison, that moment when we feel we’re not good enough – that’s when we open a door to giving up.
That’s our reason for not creating anymore.
The reason to put away brushes and paint, the sewing machine or the folders with our stories.
That reason is not good enough.
The truth is, nobody is doing exactly the thing we are doing. Nobody else is writing our stories, painting our pictures or creating our art.
There is nobody else.
And thus, all comparison is useless. The proof is useless.
They are not you or me.
Art is not a competition.
When we create art, we’re not at a sports event, where speed, strength or teamwork get measured in time, distance or goals.
When we create art, the only one we compete with is ourselves.
And that’s what you need to measure: Am I better at my art today than I was yesterday?
Think about it.
Getting better even means that you need to take a break at times. Space where you create nothing, in order to let that well fill up again. Time to rest your mind, to clear out the internal clutter.
And then go and create something new.
That is the only thing that counts.
And it is alway, always good enough.
Here’s some tapping to go with that thought:
Even though I learned early on that I’m not good enough and never will be, I’m okay the way I am, and I’m giving myself permission to be good enough for me from now on.
Even though it’s so easy to look around and find people who are more successful in the field I work in, I’m okay the way I am, and I now choose to walk my path and do the best I can.
Even though it hurts when that old self-doubt rears its ugly head, I’m okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to enjoy my creative work, and get better at it every day.
Your Turn:
What did you create today?
What are you going to create tomorrow?
How does feel to be creative?
Write a comment and share the good stuff!
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PS: Self-doubt is such an insidious mental state. And we have learned to feel it early on. How many times do children hear a “no” every day? How many times do they get told “You can’t do this!”?
When I work with a client, we remove the roots for that self-doubt. We look into how it serves the client, too. And then we shift those thought patterns and habits into new ones that are much more supportive.
EFT is the fastest way I know to shift limiting beliefs, old thought habits and other kinds of blocks. If you want help with that, click HERE and send me an email. Together, we’ll figure out how I can support you best.
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